How to avoid misunderstandingWhy do they keep misunderstanding me? We often hear people complain. Misunderstanding seems to be one of the most disturbing issues in interpersonal relationships. We often see how it undermines the harmonious relationships between people.Several factors contribute to misunderstanding. First, people with different personal and cultural backgrounds may have diverse perspectives in interpreting one behavior. Second, the language we use as a vehicle of conveying thought can be ambiguous, and various ways of decoding (解码) words may result in barriers in communication. Third, misunderstanding occurs because of a lack of mutual trust. If you have prejudice (偏见) against someone, whatever he says may sound iii intentioned to you. Having gone so far in the exploration of the causes of misunderstanding, we can easily arrive at the ways to avoid them. Firstly, we should be broad minded and be tolerant of the differences among people. Secondly, we should be accurate and appropriate in our handle of language, avoiding misleading words. Thirdly, we should be constructive and patient in dealing with people. If we try hard enough, there will be more understanding and less misunderstanding in this world. How to avoid misunderstandingAs is known to everyone, misunderstandings are very common in our daily life. Misunderstandings can lead to a lot of problems and unnecessary trouble .For example, someone told the driver there is a bum on the bus. The driver took bum for bomb, which elicited a serious panic on the bus. Because so many words sound similar, such kinds of incidents happen frequently. So it is necessary for us to pay attention to the problem of misunderstandings.To avoid misunderstandings, I recommend some good methods. First listen carefully to what others say. You should make sure you have got everything others say. If you miss something, what he said may become totally different. Second, say what youre sure is proper. That is to say, you should not use some confusing phrases or words. Instead, you should use some common words and phrases. Third, lay stress on what is vital. Thus, others can understand what you want to say even if you havent made it very clear. Fourth, pay attention to the differences in culture and gender. Men and women seldom mean the same things even when they use the same words. For example, when a woman says, we never go out, and a man will take it literally. He will probably answers it is not true. We went out last week. Actually the women means she want to go out now. People always prefer to speak indirectly, so you should try to understand the connotation in their words. Most importantly, you should never pretend you have understood others words if you havent. If you do that, you may do things in the wrong direction. And the more you do, the more mistakes you will make.There is one more point I feel I ought to touch on. We should learn to be sincere and understanding when were on the verge of misunderstanding others. If we can be more forgiving, we can calm ourselves down easily. Then we will argue less and be able to respond more positively.To draw a conclusion, if we learn to be attentive and more caring, we can avoid coming across misunderstandings and we can live a happy life.How to Avoid Misunderstandings?Misunderstandings may frequently occur in our everyday life. For example, there is a misunderstanding when people use the same words but do not mean the same things. Misunderstanding may also arise between people who behave differently. Misunderstanding each other may cause a lot of trouble in our daily life. Many a quarrel has come about through misunderstanding. Generation gaps appear because of misunderstandings. A serious misunderstanding fractures friendship. When a couple misunderstand each other badly, marriage is likely to break up. Misunderstanding can lead to great problems for both teachers and students. Then how can we clear up misunderstandings?Misunderstandings can be avoided in many ways. Here are some tips. To begin with, dont use ambiguous words. Speak plainly, clearly and directly. Next, highlight your important points. Make sure that others know what your major concerns are. Besides, be honest and modest. Claim to know what you know, dont claim to know what you dont know, and this is wisdom. (知之为知之，不知为不知，是知也。) Moreover, when you do not comprehend others fully, dont feel ashamed to ask, “Pardon, I didnt catch your meaning.” or “Im sorry. Would you please explain it again?” Finally, be aware of cultural differences. It is always smart to talk about misunderstandings and respect mutual (相互的) differences.Though it is impossible to eliminate all misunderstandings, if you keep all the tips above in mind, you will, to the greatest extent, avoid many potential.Misunderstandings and understand each other better. Without misunderstandings between people, the world will be a better one, and everyone