Unit1PartI-A87,80,53,48,24,17Script:ThePorterFamilyMrWilliamPorterisveryold.Heis87.AndMrsCatherinePorteris80.MrPorterisfromWales.JohnPorterandMaryarebrotherandsister.JohnPorteris53andheisalawyer.HiswifeSusanis48,andsheisanarchitect.JamesPorterandJoanLeearecousins.JamesPorteris24andJoanLeeis17.PartI-B1. spendingspecialtimetogether.2. specific,complain,request,praise.3. fatigue,insecurities,foxhole,strikingout,protect.4. distant5. allmarriages,Worktogetherounderstand6. Respect,danger,professional,physical,verbal7. Understand,winPartI-C40,excel,domesticargument,losingwin-win,lose-lose,win,agift,returnsargueover,arent,who,incontrol,fear,didntneed,oughtnotto,couldnt,triedto,destroy,marriagelove,loved,secure,discover,garden,cultivate,themostprecious,ownself,bloom.obtain,ourpartner,lovedandrespected,control.PartII-AA21. similarsocialbackgrounds.2. thesameraceorsameethnicbackground.3. thesamereligion.A3Japan/9.2%/arrangedmarriages3%/betweenblacksandwhitesManypeopleinWesterncultureschoosetheirownwivesandhusbands.Inmanyothercountries,spouseareoftenchosenbytheparents.InChinaandJapanbeforethiscentury(20thcentury),upper-classmarriageswerearrangedbytheoldermales.InmanyculturesintheMiddleEast,Asia,andpre-industrialEurope,themansfamilynegotiatedabridepricewiththewomansfamily;themansfamilywasexpectedtopayit.InHinduIndia,thebridesfamilypaidagroomspricetothefamilyoftheman.Thesecustomsareweakening;forintance,only9.2percentofJapanesemarriagesarenowarranged.Whatarethecriteriaforchoosingmates?Mostmarriages-whetherarrangedbyfamiliesoroccurringfrompersonalattractionorlove-arebasedonsimilarsocialbackgrounds.Inotherwords,themanandthewomancomefromthesamesocialclass(orelseaclassthatisonlyslightlyhigherorslightlower).AmongmanypeopleinEgypt,keymembersofthemansfamilymustgotothefamilyofthewomanandproposemarriage.Thesefamilymembersmustbeabletoshowthatthemansfamilyisatleastofthesamesocialclassasthewomanandthatacertainamountofmoneyexiststoallowthemarriagetogoforward.Havingthesameraceorthesameethnicbackgroundisthesecondmaincriterionformarriagethroughouttheworld.IntheU.S,.Wheretherearemanydifferentraces,only3percentofallmarriagesarebetweenblacksandwhites,meaningthattheracesarestilllargelyseparateinmarriage.Inmanycountries,marriageisalsobasedonthewomanandmanhavingthesamereligion;thisisathirdcommoncriterionforchoosingamate.Incultureinwhichreligionisverystrongvalue,marriageswouldoftennottakeplaceiftherewerereligiousdifferences.PartII-B1. physicalappearance;2. whatsomebodylookslike,lookbeyondthephysicalappearance3. thehighpercentageofdivorces.4. fallinglovewithsomebody,lovingsomebodyScript:Whatdoyouthinkitisthatattractspeopletoeachother,thatmakespeoplewanttobetogether?Ithinkthatperhapsunfortunatelyintheinitialstagesitsthephysicalappearancethatattracts.Ithinkunlessyoufindsomebodyattractive,unlesstheressomethingaboutthem-itcouldonlyperhapsbethewaytheysmileortheylaugh,oratwinkleintheireye,orthewayofacurlfallsovertheirforehead.Butsomethinglikethathastomakeyouinterestedenoughtofindoutmoreaboutthatperson,unlessthatsthereIthinkyoujustdontbother.SoinitiallyphysicalattractionIthinkisallimportant.Whydoyousayunfortunately?Becauseinfactitshouldntbewhatsomebodylookslikethatisimportant.Youshouldbeabletolookbeyondhephysicalappearanceandseewhatsortofapersonheorsheis,whethertheyareselfishorselfless,whethertheyarekind,caring.ButIthinkinitiallyyouarenotbotheredwiththat.Thatcomeperhapslater.Inpopsongsandmagazinesandnewspapersandsonon,theideaoffallingloveinsalwaysemphasized,sopeoplehavethisideathatyouhavetofallinlove.Doyouthinkthisismisleadingforpeople?Doyouthinkpeopleexpectsomethingthatinfactdoesntexist?Yes,Ido.InfactIthinkwecanprobablylaytheblameforthehighpercentageofdivorce-itsathirdIthinknow,isntit?Ithinkoneinthreepeoplegetdivorced.ProbablyasfarasIcanseeit,thereasonisthattheygointomarriageorintoarelationshipwithaveryromanticviewoflovewhichIthinkhasbeencreatedbythepopsongs,byallthelovestores,bytheBarbaraCartlandnovels,etc.,thatyoungpeopleread.Really,youmeetsomeone,youfallinlove,andthatsit.,itsthebeginning,theylivehappilyevenafter.AndIthinkthatstheproblem,becausepeoplejustexpectthat,anditsnotlikethat.Sowhatisit,doyouthink,thatreallysustainsarelationship,thatkeepsarelationshipgoing?Well,Ithinkyouhavetodifferentiatebetweenfallinginlovewithsomebody,whichIseeasmoresuperficial,andlovingsomebody,whichIseeasadeeperemotionandonethatperhapslasts.Fallinginloveissuperficialattraction,beingattractedtosomebodyphysically,havingfuntogether,whereaslovingsomebodyIthinkisanemotionthatgrows,itcomeswithsharedexperiences,perhapsenjoyingdoingthesamethingstogether,sharedhobbies,sharedinterests,sufferingtogetheraswell,goingthroughthebadtimes,helpingeachother,supportingeachother.Ithinkallthatneedstimetogrow,andIdcallthatlove,andIthinkthatswhatmakesarelationshiplast.PartII-Coneofthebiggestdecisionstheywillmakeinlife,asthejust-rightwifeforhim,definitionofwhatthejus